Adoptive parents’ stories
"At times, when she was first placed with us it was a
minefield because you just didn’t know what to expect or what was coming next but we loved every minute of it and are now a family. You go from just the two of you, getting along fine, finances doing well, and then all of a sudden everything goes up in the air. You are doing school runs, organising weekends out and about and finances just go off the radar, you’re paying school dinner money, trips out, the list is endless but now we wouldn’t be without our daughter!"
The challenges of caring for children who have been removed from their birth parents because they are unable to care for them, are rich and varied.
Some children will have experienced neglect and abuse, and more will have suffered loss and separation. They need stable families who can give them the care and love they require to lead ordinary lives while recovery from their past experiences.
Occasionally we ask for people to adopt babies but most of the children who need adoption are between six months and seven years.
Here are a few insights into the types of placements we make and what the parents feel about their success.
Children from sibling groups
"Because they are siblings they are there for each other and help each other through, although they can argue just like any siblings they have each other to grow up with. They have made our lives so much more enriched and we just love being parents."
Children from sibling groups are likely to wait for longer periods to be placed as prospective adoptive parents worry that caring for more than one child may be harder than adopting one. In reality, these children often settle better because their siblings are placed with them.
If you think you could consider a sibling group we will offer you support and advice all along the way.
‘When we first saw his profile he reminded us so much of my brother when he was younger. This enabled us to feel connected and so the more we found out we realised that although he had mild autism this was something we could manage and we thought we are the right parents to help him move forward."
Disabled children are often overlooked as their medical condition or disability is what people first see. However, when you meet that child they are usually adorable.
When we find the right family for a disabled child they often thrive and their issues reveal themselves to be linked to their life’s uncertainty rather than complex needs.
Children for a different background
"We didn’t realise there were not enough adopters from Black and Ethnic Minority backgrounds coming forward and therefore we made some enquiries and found out that they were very keen to meet with us."
Children who come from various ethnic and cultural backgrounds can be placed with adoptive parents who are from a different background to their own. However, where we can we strive to match children with the best possible match including their ethnicity.
It is for this reason that we are actively seeking people from Black Ethnic Minority backgrounds as we have a particular shortage of adopters of this heritage and culture.